Coercive control is a form of family violence where one person uses ongoing, controlling behaviours to dominate another. It might not leave physical marks—but it can leave deep emotional scars.

Australian family law is increasingly recognising coercive control as a serious factor in parenting and property matters.

This page explains what coercive control is, how it’s treated under family law, and what protections are available.

1. What Is Coercive Control?

Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour designed to control, isolate, and dominate a partner. It can include:

• Monitoring your movements or phone

• Isolating you from friends or family

• Controlling money or decision-making

• Constant criticism or humiliation

• Threats (including to harm themselves or others)

• Making you feel like you’re walking on eggshells

Example
Nadia’s partner never hit her—but he checked her phone daily, tracked her location, and slowly cut her off from her family. She was anxious and scared to speak up. This behaviour was recognised in court as coercive control.

2. Is Coercive Control Illegal in Australia?

Laws are changing. Some states have started to criminalise coercive control:

• NSW: New laws will make coercive control a criminal offence from July 2024

• QLD and SA: Similar legislation is in development

• Other states: Coercive control can still be addressed through domestic violence orders

Even if not criminally prosecuted yet, coercive control is already recognised in family law as a form of family violence.

3. How Does Coercive Control Affect Parenting and Property Cases?

The Family Court may:

• Restrict parenting time if one parent has used coercive control

• Require supervised contact

• Award a greater share of property to the person who was financially or emotionally controlled

Example
Luke was stopped from working, controlled financially, and constantly threatened by his ex-partner. In their property settlement, the judge acknowledged this imbalance and adjusted the division accordingly.

4. How Can You Prove Coercive Control?

You can provide:

• Text messages, emails, or recordings

• Witness statements from family, friends, or professionals

• Diaries or notes of controlling incidents

• Evidence of isolation or financial control

The court will look at patterns—not just isolated incidents.

5. What Support Is Available?

If you’re in a controlling relationship:

• Speak to a family violence support service

• Consider a Domestic Violence Order (DVO) to create legal protection

• Seek legal or financial advice safely and confidentially

It’s important to get support early, especially if children are involved.

Final Thought

Coercive control is a serious form of abuse—even if there are no bruises. The law is evolving, and help is available. You have the right to feel safe, respected, and free from fear.